Unconditional Love
“There are no words left that can fill the void.” ~Me
It’s been almost 11 years…10 years, 10 months and 23 days or just 3980 days ago that my mother passed away. She was home surrounded by her children and grand-children in those closing moments of her life, the way any of us would like to go I think. But the reality is that my mother didn’t want to go, not just yet anyway but cancer has its own timeline and really doesn’t care what the rest of us have to say about it. I’m sad, very sad that my mom is gone but I’m not bitter about the passing of my mother. Her pain and suffering from cancer was finally over, how could I be selfish enough to be bitter about that? Still, I miss her each and every day. What prompts the theme of my post today is that this weekend is Mother’s Day and I am fortunate enough to celebrate it with my wife through the eyes of my kids. I also take this time to celebrate the memory of my mom with my siblings as we tell stories that exemplify my mother’s wicked sense of humor and her absolutely bottomless capacity for unconditional love and kindness.
Modern science has found incredible reasons as to the strong relationships between children and their mothers…the data is incredible…but at the end of the day, most moms just love their kids and want them to be safe and happy. As a child, it is all too easy to take things for granted knowing that mom will always be there. When we are teenagers and we know all there is to know in the world, we argue with mom to explain to her how things are different now. As young adults we are energetic and we feel invincible as we move out into the world because we know that mom is there to help if needed. As adults, we realize how right our mothers were about all the things they had been trying to tell us for so many years and we begin to really recognize their wisdom. Now that she’s gone, now that I have kids, oh the questions I have that I never knew I needed to ask her while she was still alive…
The point of this post is that we all only have the one woman we call mother…be it biological, adoptive, or foster…this person has sacrificed for our benefit, has gone without for our benefit and has loved for our benefit. Take time this weekend…visit, call, text, skype, have Scotty beam you wherever you need to be in order to be with your mother…put your arms around her and give her the same gift she has given you all these years, love. I confess this post has been a little more challenging to write than my others but it is one that needs to be written. My hope is that as a mother or a child we can all reflect back on what this day really means about a woman who has taken on the most challenging job ever, motherhood.
For some of us, these types of holidays bring back memories…some good, some not so good…but thus it is all part of this life we live. People from all walks of life have a great impact on who we are if only for a moment…celebrate those and share the love given so freely and unconditionally. As always, Thanks for reading and I hope everyone has a great weekend. If anyone has any questions or comments, please feel free to drop me an email at wmreid@bhcshealth.com. Take care of yourself and each other, remember, we’re all in this together. Happy Mother’s Day!
Wm Reid
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